Adoption

I ended a relationship, so I was in a bad mood. I went out for a drink and something horrible happened to me. That’s why I got pregnant. I realized I was pregnant around five months because of the fetal movement. I considered an abortion or any possible way to end the pregnancy. No one knew I was pregnant in the beginning. When I was seven months pregnant my family found out. At that time, they took me back to their home. However, we couldn’t do anything to the baby that far along in the pregnancy.

My aunt told my mother that there is an association for single moms in Taichung. My aunt suggested we go to PSC and take a look, so we went. People at PSC told me that if I didn’t want to raise my baby, I could choose adoption for my baby. A family who couldn’t have their own baby could adopt my baby. People in PSC really cared about my situation and prayed for me. They shared some previous cases with me.

I saw that those babies had been adopted by nice families. In the beginning, we struggled very much. My father wanted to raise the baby. However, taking into consideration my parents’ age and my financial situation, our final decision was to choose adoption.

The CEO of PSC knew that I was afraid of connecting with people or talking to anybody. She introduced some Christians to me, and then I started to go to church with them. I was surprised when I arrived there the first time; there were many people already in the church before the service started at 9 o’clock on Sunday morning, and it was really special. They would hug each other as a greeting. I felt awkward because in my previous environment, I never came in contact with people like this. But, I gradually got used to it and even started enjoying the hugs. Knowing Jesus changed my life. I had my happiness back, and I was more optimistic. I made new friends and got to know many good people in church. Thank God. I am so grateful for all the help from PSC and at church from people who love me.

 

Parenting

I first realized I was pregnant when I noticed physical changes in my body. The first person I told was the baby’s father, my husband now, but we were only boyfriend/girlfriend back then. My biggest concerns were financial. I was already struggling, and I had to work part-time, while going to school part-time so I was really worried I would not be able to afford raising a child.

My professors at school and online search results both pointed us in the direction of PSC. The first meeting with PSC was terrible. It was not because of PSC, but because I was a mess emotionally and could not listen to anything I was told. I only thought, “I’m doomed.” After I had my baby, I kept in touch with PSC and even received counseling from them. It was a great help and helped me to slowly recover.

In the end, I had my baby. If I had to choose all over again, I would still choose to have my baby. Even though I did not want to have my baby at first, I decided to after I calmed down and thought about it. I never changed my mind after that.

During my pregnancy, PSC staff would pray for me (this was most important), provide for my practical needs, give me counseling, and helped us with inner healing. Their support and care was never ending.

 

Parenting

I finally took a pregnancy test because my period was really late. After I found I was pregnant, I told my sister and boyfriend. At first, I was most worried that my sickness and poor health would affect the baby. A social worker gave me a PSC flyer, so I decided to contact them. A member of PSC’s staff called me very quickly and asked about my situation. I immediately felt peaceful and calm. In the end, because of the support and prayer of the people at PSC, I decided to have my baby. If I had to decide all over again, I would still choose to have my baby.

In the beginning, after a health checkup, my doctor recommended that I abort my baby. I was really weak and had no confidence that I could deliver a healthy baby. So I did think about aborting my baby. Then, Lillian from PSC supported me and encouraged me to shift my perspective from my health to my relationship with God. That strength has sustained me up to today.

PSC helped me solve a lot of problems during my pregnancy. Everything from finances to my daily living to doctor appointments to supporting me emotionally. But most importantly, they prayed for me. Thank you PSC for your care, from beginning to end.

The Lord sees your work and will remember it. Thank you, Father.

 

Parenting

I was already six months pregnant before my first check-up with PSC’s social worker. Because I didn’t have a place to stay, I sought out PSC’s home for mothers. I wasn’t really afraid of anything, I was just worried about the health of my baby. I was already separated from the baby’s father and did not find out I was pregnant until after the separation. My first impression of PSC was that it was a very comfortable environment with caring staff that were very concerned with my situation and health. At first, I kept going back and forth between adoption or raising my child myself. Then one day at church, I heard God say to me, “I will be by your side as you watch your child grow.” Since then, the thought of raising my baby grew stronger.

I am very happy I decided to raise my child because he is so cute, and I was reluctant to give him up. I am thankful for everyone at PSC. They looked after me and my baby’s health during that time and gave me a safe environment to have my baby.

 

Adoption

Hanhan’s mental capacity is lower. She is easily taken advantage of and does not know what is going on. As her father, I have to think of everything for her; and, although frustrating, I have to help my daughter.

In April of 2018, I was at a church in Taichung when a lady there gave me a PSC flyer. I decided to take Hanhan to PSC. After telling the staff at PSC Hanhan’s story, they prayed for us. In May, Hanhan moved to PSC to get ready for her baby’s birth. PSC’s staff cared for Hanhan 24 hours a day. On May 25, Hanhan went into labor, and PSC took Hanhan straight to the hospital and helped her successfully deliver her baby. PSC continued to take care of Hanhan after her delivery.

Today,  Hanhan and I thank God for His grace. God has helped me so much. If it weren’t for His grace, we would not have come in contact with such a wonderful organization. Hanhan and I will always remember God’s grace. Amen!